Marriage Counselling / Therapy


When couples fall in love and get married, both parties looked forward to a happy life together. However, through the months and years of life together as a married couple, many issues may have happened leading to much stress, unhappiness and frustration in the marriage relationship. 

There are many reasons and challenges that lead couple to counselling, including but not limited to the following:

1. Couples' Communication with Each Other Has Worsen
When communication has deteriorated, it can be very hard to get it going back in the right direction. Negative communication can often leave one or both partners feeling  depressed, disregarded, or feel like stopping the conversation with each other. Sometimes the communication becomes energy draining to both parties also. It is important to remember that it’s not always what you say, but the tone and manner of how the words were spoken. When left unattended, it may led to high level of anger and frustration for both parties.

2. When either partners thinks about having an affair, or one partner has had an affair.
You could be hurt and angry over the marriage infidelity that your spouse had committed. You could be having load of questions overwhelming your mind like: "How could you do these to me?", "Why did you do it?" When an affair kicks into your lives between you and your spouse, you can be confused and lost. Your emotions charged up quickly. And this usually caused the distance between you and your spouse to drift apart and the trust is gone and lost. You need to seek help for your marriage. When the trust is broken, you would need to learn how you and your spouse can amend it? Let us journey with you to explore the recovery process. 

Trust can be rebuild when honesty and thoughtfulness are proved over a period of time.

3. When Staying Together is Just "Staying Under One Roof"
Living together under one roof does not necessary mean that a meaningful relationship is happening. When couples are staying together just for the sake of staying together, this may indicate a need for counseling. There will be a need for the counsellor to work with you to examine the issues that led to the lack of intimacy and rebuild your lives together.

4. When Resolving Differences between Couples Becomes More Challenging than Before
Differences in thinking and behavior/actions can sometimes lead to great sense of distance between each other. Distancing often only leads to even worsen communication. Many times couples may feel that they know what is wrong but find it extremely hard to work out their differences in a peaceful and accepting manner. If a couple is stuck, a professional counsellor may be able to get them moving in the right direction.

5. When Couples Feels that They Need to Live Separatedly
When a couple is in a strong tension in the relationship, a break in the relationship may seemed to be helpful. However, a day stay away from home may eventually leads to a temporary or extended separation, - this may indicate a need to seek professional counselling. Spending time away from each other for long usually does not resolve the situation, and only tends to worsen the communication.

6. When Children Seems to be the Only Common Platform
Sometimes, you feel that you want to only stay together because of the children. Often couples believe that they are doing the right thing when staying together can actually is detrimental to the children if measures not taken to ensure a healthy relationship within the entire family system. On the contrary, if the couple is able to resolve root issues and move toward a constructive relationship, this will benefit all members of the family.

Children are generally sensitive in their own ways and sense that their parents are not on good or harmonious terms. No matter how couples try to be "happy" and be "ok" in front of the children, most children are able to tell whether their parents are in a good relationship.

Marriage Therapy - Testimonials

 

We found it easy to confide in the counsellor and he showed us empathy towards our situation and helped us to better understand our needs as a couple.We learnt to better understand each other and move forward together with better communication. - K & T

 

Our marriage had become so distant that we didn't feel intimacy that we once shared. Counsellor helped us to be aware of our past experiences with our own families that resulted in how we relate to each other in our marriage. Glad that things have improved between us now - J & L

How To Make Appointment

Our counsellors have been featured as experts in Asia and Singapore's Media such as Counsellors.Asia , SimplerHer Magazine, Cosmopolitan Magazine, The New Paper and more.  To arrange an appointment, please use the Request Appointment Form  or call us at +65 84080010.  

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